Have you ever wondered if someone is truly into you? Or, have you ever questioned if someone is worth your time waiting to see if the relationship is going anywhere?
A lot of girls like to look at Astrology for guidance to see if the men they’re talking to have the personality traits they’re looking for. You’ve probably seen or heard someone saying, “I can’t be with him because he’s a [insert sign]” because of past experiences telling them that the astrology sign is the reason for the relationship being a failure.
Did you know there is a better way to understand whether you are truly compatible with someone?
It first starts with understanding yourself. Once you learn who you are, you can be confident in looking for the traits in someone else that is going to be complimentary to your own personality. This isn’t about finding a man who is into the same activities as you, such as yoga and hiking, but more about being with someone who is compatible with you enough to encourage you to be your best, and hold you accountable in a healthy way that fosters growth.
Meyers Briggs (MB) personality assessment test is a very good way to learn about yourself, what your quirks are, and also what your needs are. Taking this personality test will give you a summary of one of 16 typical personalities that make up most people. Similar to how everyone fits somewhere into the Astrology signs, this is a lot more concise and allows you to view yourself objectively and clearly, which will encourage your own thoughtfulness about other people’s personalities when you meet them.
When it comes to dating, the best approach is to be intentional (intentional dating), and I will write more on this in another post. But, the point is to be able to objectively look at a situation, a person, without emotions clouding your judgement, so you can determine if someone is compatible with you BEFORE getting involved in ways that can potentially lead to heartbreak.
The objective should be to waste as little time and energy, as possible, when it comes to dating.
If you want to take the Meyers Briggs personality test, you can find one here.
Once you have done the test, read the assessment about yourself and commit it to memory. Perhaps you find some answers to things you were always wondering about yourself!
Next, is to think objectively about who you are and get to know your strengths and weaknesses. A successful relationship is one with someone who has personality traits that are going to COMPLIMENT yours, so your strength might be an area of their weakness so you can offer support, and vice-versa; they can support you and give you the help you need in an area that you might struggle with.
Loving and supportive partners are willing to tell you the truth about something even if it’s difficult, because it’s for your betterment. This is why most successful relationships contain an element of friction (when coming from a loving place) which can feel uncomfortable at the time, but ultimately leads to greater intimacy when done right.
Growth for humans is vitally important, and without it comes stagnation and discontent for the individual, and then the relationship. Personally fulfilled individuals make better partners overall.
If you’re ready to learn more about yourself, and how to know if you’re compatible with someone, take the Meyers Briggs test and throw away the Astrology concept. This is a good option for women especially as it makes for more interesting conversation for men to engage with as it shows self-awareness and willingness to get along and be accountable.
My own MB personality is INFP, and even though I am an introvert, I have worked on being outgoing because it’s always a good idea to challenge yourself and grow as a human being! Plus, it’s a great way to network and find new opportunities.
What’s your Meyer Briggs personality? Leave a comment below.